How to Receive Constructive Criticism Like a Champ

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No one likes to be criticized. When someone points out that we’re doing something wrong, our first reaction typically is to get defensive. We react that way because (a) we like to be right, (b) we don’t want to be wrong (we see that as a failure) and (c) we don’t know the other person’s motives, so we assume we’re being attacked.

Constructive criticism bypasses these reactions by focusing on improvement rather than on being right or wrong. If personal or professional growth is a priority for you, then you need to receive feedback with a growth mindset.

What Is Constructive Criticism?

Constructive criticism is friendly, helpful feedback that provides specific actionable suggestions meant to help people improve in some area. Its goal is to trigger changes that will lead to more positive outcomes.

Unlike destructive criticism, constructive criticism focuses on building people up, not on tearing them down. Destructive criticism is personal and intended to harm someone’s self-worth. It typically doesn’t provide guidance for personal or professional improvement.

8 Tips to Handle Constructive Criticism

1. Stop Your Initial Reaction

Decide to receive the criticism with an open mind and avoid reacting emotionally in a defensive or angry manner. Remind yourself that feedback is an opportunity to grow.

2. Listen Actively

Pay close attention to the speaker’s words (rather than formulating a response) so that you may understand what’s being said to you.

3. Ask Questions

Asking questions will help you understand the feedback further, ensure that you’re hearing what the speaker is saying, and avoid misunderstandings. Don’t assume. Ask the speaker for clarification and additional information.

4. Don't Take It Personally

When receiving constructing (not destructive) criticism, remember that it’s not about you–it’s about the situation.

5. Be Open to Another Point of View

Remind yourself that being receptive to other people’s POV expands your horizons.

6. Welcome It With a Growth Mindset

To succeed in life, we need to replace fixed-mindset thinking (which views criticism as an insult) with growth-mindset thinking, which considers the possibility that there’s room for improvement. With this mindset, you can work on your performance rather than dwell on feelings.

7. Be Grateful

Be grateful that the person giving the feedback cares enough to take the time and make the effort to help you do better.

8. Let It Inspire You

Constructive criticism can be incredibly eye-opening and inspiring. It can wake you up to a new reality and motivate you to reach for higher growth.

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